Stress elimination

I recall my attempt to talk on the topic "deepen your root and broaden your vision" where I was talking about why we should learn new things but without leaving our religion and culture.

During the event, I was asked about the slogan of Art of living, where it is said stress free and violence free society is the goal. I could not prove by example that stress could be eliminated. Frankly speaking, at that time I didn't even know meaning of stress but i could tell through my experience that after I started meditating, I had eliminated my stress. But putting experience into speech is a tough job.

Today let's start with the defination of stress. Stress is the difference between reality and your expectation. For example, i have a ticket of a movie of 9 am and i am stuck in traffic jam at the distance of 15 minute by vehicle, I will have 2 options: I can have stress, I can feel bad about the portion I will miss, I can curse traffic system, politicians, government, regret for not leaving early and so on.

Or I can say to myself, ok anyhow some portion is going to be missed so instead of being stressed, i will go and watch the show and then again i will see the missed part online or maybe i don't want to go today, i will buy another ticket and watch the whole movie in the hall.

So stress is a choice and not a phenomenon, and i wonder why do people choose this disease causing thing. We all know stress causes heart disease, asthma and even cancer. For reference you can see the video on the RHS :P

Ok now let's see how just by changing the thinking perception can change the effect of stress, and is it just illusion of stress elimination or is it really possible? 

Do you know a chemical named Oxytocin. It is a chemical released when we hug or kiss loved ones. And surprisingly it is released as a cause of stress! But this chemical has all the positive effects in our body.

So who is the villain in stress! Our villain is named as adrenaline. This hormone is produced in stress, when we fear something. Our day to day life stress is releasing this hormone and this hormone shows symptoms like faster beating of heart and other effects which may eventually cause diseases that sound extremely dangerous. So the trick of stress elimination is letting our body produce oxytocin instead of adrenaline. The thing I am saying is not complete as there are various other factors associated with stress, but I can pretty much say that the stress we have been knowing and think as unavoidable can actually be eliminated. That feeling we don't like can be eliminated and diseases can be avoided.

Oxytocin sometimes is also called bonding hormone and it is also said to be released when we help others. So helping others can also reduce the stress we know. Please watch this beautiful video below to know more in this regard.

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BCS satsang lyrics

Ganesha Sharanam Sharanam Ganesha

Ganesha Sharanam Sharanam Ganesha (3)

Siddhivinayaka Sharanam Ganesha
Buddhipradayaka Sharanam Ganesha

Mangala Moorti Sharanam Ganesha
Ganesha Sharanam Sharanam Ganesha

 

Your Home Is in My Heart

Your home is in my heart
My heart is very strong
When you are feeling lonely
I will carry you along

Your home is in my heart
My heart is everywhere
Wherever you may wander
Just know that I am there

Your home is in my heart
My heart is like an ocean
I will rock you while you are sleeping
On wave of sweet devotion

 

Jano Jano Jano

jano jano jano
khudko pehechano
satya chitta aanand tu hai
ghar laut aao

hai tu toh sher
khudko samjha billi
myau myau karte karte kaha kaha firta

hai tu to sagar
khudko samjha leher
aane do, jaane do
jo bhi hota hine do

aate ho jate ho
jara khudme thehro na
chaplusi chhodke baadshah ban jao na

rishiyoka pukaar hai
ved puranka saar hai
satya chitta aanand tu hai
ghar laut aao

 

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Two different world

scenario 1:

A family is poor, father has started drinking due to the stress of never having enough money. He comes and beats his wife. Children see this activity everyday. Child goes to school and bullies others. He doesn't know ho to love others as he only knows to imitate what he sees in home. He is dropped from school due to his rough behaviour. Father drinks more due to added tension by his kids. He blames mother for not taking proper care. He now beats wife and children. Child runs from home and end up in street. Poof! a future of nation is ruined. ( Now someone can please tell me, how does drinking and smoking help in stress? you kill yourselves and add more misery to your dear ones.)

Scenario 2: (real story) Today I was in a party organised by a good businessman. There was a huge crowd of people. I was enjoying my food while a women called me. She said,"is there no fan present in the hall? it is so hot in here and my baby is sweating". I pointed towards fan and said "there, it is...please go and stand there with ur child for sometime."

Her reply shocked me, she was drunk and was afraid to stand. She instead requested me to carry her child to fan for some time. The child was easy one and came to me easily. I carried the kid and went in front of fan and stood there for few minutes. Child was more relaxed now and began to show sign of sleepiness. My father had a flight at 9 and i had to get out from the party before 8:30, it was already 8 and I was carrying kid. I had not had my dinner yet. I was little bit worried now, but at the same time, two seats just infront of the fan became vacant, i called the women to sit in that chair. At first she blankly refused and insisted me to sit with child for more time. Then upon much insistence she moved to the seat infront of fan and I went for dinner.

In this scenario, I saw how life of kids in rich family was being ruined due to their parent's carelessness.

In both scenarios, root of problem is drinking. When I ask my friends not to drink, they say I don't know their tension, they don't want to drink but they have to because of tension. Most of them say, it's okay to drink occasionally like they do. And I have seen extreme things people do after getting drunk. 

This blog post has no story, no point, no moral and no spirituality. I am just sick of people who drink. You are pathetic if you drink. I don't hate who drink, I just have sympathy towards you all and hope all of you get some sense. You may have drunk and may not have done anything wrong yet but one day you may commit a big crime while you are intoxicated and that day you all wont have return path or way to improve that. If you want to handle stress learn meditation, using substances is not your medication for stress. Don't try to be your own doctor recommending drinks for your stress.

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How to invite all friends to page or event in facebook?

(off the topic from spirituality)
Instructions:
1. Click Invite Friends on whatever you are inviting people to
2. In the dropdown next to the search box, make sure Search All Friends or "Search by name" is selected!
3. Scroll ALL the way down until names stop loading (I found it easy to click the first name and then hold down the spacebar or Page Down button)
4. For EVENTS Copy this code:
javascript:elms=document.getElementsByName("checkableitems[]");for (i=0;i<elms.length;i++){if (elms[i].type="checkbox" )elms[i].click()}

For PAGES Copy this code:
javascript:var inputs = document.getElementsByClassName('uiButton _1sm');
for(var i=0; i<inputs.length;i++) {
inputs[i].click();
}

5. Paste the code into the URL bar of your browser (where you type website addresses), but WAIT! Check the beginning of the URL bar and make sure the word "javascript:" is there, if it is not, TYPE IT IN! A lot of browsers automatically delete the "javascript:" portion. Press enter.
6. For large friends list, this may utilize all your resources and will cause the page to freeze and be unresponsive. Just wait a few minutes until all the names get selected.
 

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Einstein and his driver

There is a story about how Albert Einstein was traveling to universities, giving lectures on his famous theory of relativity. One day while on their way to a university, The driver said:" Dr. Einstein, I've heard that lecture more than 30 times. I have learned it by heart and bet I could give it myself." "Well, I'll give you the chance," said Einstein, "They don't know me at the next school, so when we get there I'll put on your cap and you introduce yourself as me and give the lecture." Einstein continued. At the hall, the driver gave Einstein's lecture so wonderfully that he didn't make any mistakes. When he finished, he started to leave, but one of the professors stopped him and asked him a question which was very difficult. The aim of the question was not gaining knowledge but embarrassing Einstein. The driver thought fast. "The answer to that problem is so simple," he said, "I'm surprised you have to ask me. In fact, to show you just how simple it is, I'm going to ask my driver to come up here and answer your question."! Then Einstein stood up and gave an incredible answer to the question of that professor.
Moral of the story: No matter how genius you pretend to be, there is always someone who is more genius than you despite his position

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Why should you not wear earring in only one ear?

Have you seen any girl who is wearing one earring in either left or right? how are they? are they all happy and satisfied? No, most of the time we see such people, they are tensed. So how is tension related to wearing earring in only one ear? - Tension is probably because they lost their 1 earring!
And have you seen others who are not so tensed? It's probably because they are not wearing other one due to lack of money! Conclusion: wearing earring on both sides reduces your stress.

Ok, I was joking in above paragraph. Now We will try to see is there any scientific relation to belief that earrings should be worn in pair? If we take reference of  acupuncture, there are many end point of nerves in our ear which is directly related to brain, and pressure at certain point affects the part associated with it. So if we wear only one earring, it will only trigger response on one side and other side remains undisturbed! This may cause some imbalance.

Ear piercing for weight loss:
According to some sources, the outer ear and the abdominal organs are right next to each other during fetal development in the womb, and the physical connection between these body parts remains via nerve pathways even after they are no longer in close proximity. In this explanation, stimulating a part of the external ear also stimulates the abdominal organs, including the stomach. Other practitioners claim that piercing this particular area of the ear releases endorphins -- chemicals released by the brain during pleasurable activities that make you feel good. And because the staple stays in the ear, the endorphin effect is maintained, reducing a person's stress and anxiety levels, which for many people are a big part of the reason they over-eat.

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follow the knowledge

Nowadays I often hear ”I want to work like you, you have so much dedication and are so happily working, but I don’t have faith in guruji, I cannot follow him”.

This amazes me not because I am being praised but the wrong concept that they cannot follow guruji. At first they should tell me, who told them to follow guruji! What does following guruji means?
           - Praising about him and saying all good things about him all the time? Is that something I do? I have never done that! Then where have they come up with this concept from!

One should know what is the meaning of guru! Guru means knowledge, one who is expert at something is called guru. It’s not human we should follow, it’s knowledge which needs to be followed. When someone says follow your guru, it means follow the knowledge and not human. It is your stupidness if you think you should follow human.

Many times we have seen people who like rajesh hamal or salman khan and they try to be like him and they end up making fun out of themselves. You were born unique, why would you die duplicate?

Do you remember your best teacher? Why were they your best? They were best because they knew something more than you on the field you were interested, they would always give more knowledge than you already knew.  You may have said you wanted to be like them which meant you want to be as knowledgeable  as him. If you like your maths teacher you want to be expert of maths, if you like your football teacher you want to be great footballer but when it comes to following a guru, you become confused!

Actually spiritual guru gives such a beautiful knowledge that you assume, these are just good for listening and can’t be followed but at the same time you also feel, if this and this person listened to this knowledge and acted like this, I would be happy. You think you can’t follow knowledge but deep down you know it can be followed.  Believe me, it would be much better if we start from ourselves.

Even I am not always in knowledge, I do make mistakes but that is perfectly normal for human. So if you don’t want to follow guruji, you have made some wrong assumption on following. Stop making fun of yourself and start following guru.  Start following guru, it’s not late yet.  And if you follow knowledge you will soon start respecting human too, not only guru but everyone else also.

Bottomline: If you follow fun, misery follows you, if you follow knowledge fun follows you.

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Confidence or Clarity of mind? which one is more important?

Confidence is regarded as very important factor for success. People who are not confident, doubt whatever they are doing and can't even give their 100% in the work.

If one is not confident about his work then the first thought that will come to his mind is "what will others say about this?" One thing very important at this point is, the one who you fear will talk about whatever you are doing are(may) not expert about the topic. It's good if they are expert, because they may be saying it through their own experience but if they are not expert then they are not worth listening. For eg: if you have fever, then doctors are expert about that but sometimes(most of the times), we become expert ourselves and go and buy cetamol from the drug store and consume it. Sometimes, it may work perfectly well but in case that fever was symptom of jaundice, trust me you are doomed. You have done exactly what you should not be doing. And if you have never experienced this exceptional case of jaundice, you go on suggesting your youngers about what they should be doing when they suffer from fever.

It's OK you risk your own life, but what right have you got to risk other's life? If you are not expert, then why are you even giving advice at first place? And trust me there are many more fools on the planet who give advices even when they have no idea about what they are talking. We can listen to any number of advices we want but at the end we should take decisions on our own. If we have to take decision on our own at the end, why should we be bothered about what others will say! Whatever happens, we will bear the consequences ourselves, so there is no need to fear 'what other's will say'. I want to be clear here..you can listen to many advices but should do what you think is right and never meant to say that you should not listen to anyone. Playing deaf ear to all is not a good idea either.

So, confidence on whatever we are doing is first step towards success but is it complete? There are lots of confident people on the road who cross the road like a king, without even looking at vehicles. Till date, they are living probably by chance or maybe drivers have been showing some sympathy. If they think, it is miracle or god is saving them from somewhere...they are IDIOTS. If you chant your favourite chant, whatever it may be:- have mercy go, oh jesus, oh allah, oh ram or whatever and run blindly on the highway, there are chance that you may cross the road safely and there are chances that you may cross it not once, not twice but numerous times but you are IDIOT and any next time can  be your last one. And yes, no arguments over that issue, I have nothing against having faith in god but please don't rename your stupidity to faith or devotion or religion. You are completely an IDIOT, you are just confident on something and numerous experiences are adding to your confidence, increasing your irresponsibility to street rules. And someone may come and say, who will do that in real? trust me, there are lots of IDIOTS on the street.

I will try to make my point clear,confidence alone is not enough in our life. We need clarity of mind. Clarity of mind does not come from reading lots of books or listening to what other's say. If we read books then we are limited to author's experience. Clarity of mind comes into existence when we have a peaceful mind. A mind which keeps on worrying on various topics all the time may not suggest you the right thing. When time comes where you have to take decisions then calm mind will definitely give best answers. And mind can be brought to peace by stop worrying and through our very own experience we can say that, we cannot stop worrying by saying we need to stop worrying. 

One way we can experience peace of mind is meditation.Nowadays, meditation is practised by many successful people and I think everyone in the world should do this. Not much but atleast 10 minutes a day. 

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